Self-love is one of my words for 2015. So is faith, compassion and unconditional love.
I used to think that I would be happy after nursing school, then I graduated nursing school and I still did not feel one hundred percent happy.
Then, I thought I would be happy after I passed my boards, after I got my first job, after I landed my second job, and so on the cycle goes on…… I never felt totally happy.
It wasn’t until I had my heart broken two years ago that I stepped back and re-examined my life. I noticed a pattern. That was when I realized I needed to self-reflect to know what I really needed. I had forgotten to know what I even wanted. I had forgotten what I loved. I had forgotten myself. I needed to heal.
Spending time in solitude thinking about my life, my mistakes, my decisions: good and bad. I finally realized that it was ME who can make ME happy! Loving myself is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
I hope you enjoy this poem as much as I do. I posted this poem five years ago and I still love to read it.
The Journey of Life
By: Ann Onnemouse
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids are not old enough and we will be more content when they are.
After that, we are frustrated we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nice car, are able to go on vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there is no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It is best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes is from Alfred D. Souza. He said, ” For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life.”
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my “life”.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until your finish school,
until you go back to school,
until you lose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds,
until you have kids,
until your kids leave the house.
until you start work,
until you retire,
until you get married,
until you get divorced,
until Friday night,
until Sunday morning,
until you get a new car or home,
until your car or home is paid off,
until you are off welfare,
until the first or fifteenth,
until your song comes on,
until you’ve had a drink,
until you’ve sobered up,
until you die,
until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.